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About Nekole

Nekole's Birth stories:

1st Birth & 2nd Birth

I am thrilled that you are here to get to know me and the work I am exhilarated about doing with you!  

I am a mother of two beautiful girls.  I am the wife of an amazing husband. 
I am the friend of many magnificent people. 
I am a healer.  I am a woman.

My story, like yours is fascinating and multifaceted.  My mother started doing massage therapy in Hawaii in concurrence with my conception.  She went on to be a leader in the Massage Therapy movement, eventually turning her fierce spirit to birth work.  I was her only child for some time and she was my primary parent.  The result was an apprenticeship for me like none other.

Eventually, I flew from my Hawaiian nest to attend Barnard College of Columbia University in New York City.  There I studied science, religion, language, and politics.  I learned that women were “oppressed” and that men were our leaders.  I also learned we were meant to change this!  As a Barnard graduate it was understood that I was to lead the way for many others in this endeavor.

I lived in NYC for 15 years where I was able to weave together the various Eastern and Western influences and experiences of my life.  Some of the greatest weaving I did surrounded recovering from being in downtown Manhattan on Sept. 11th, 2001.  It was there I learned about post-traumatic stress and ultimately about the profound healing that can come from an event that breaks down all you think you know the world to be.  

On February 22, 2006 I gave birth to my first daughter.  This transition was larger than I could ever have imagined!  I know the threads from that event will be a continual source of weaving for me.  So far, I have found a connection to my family I never thought was possible.  I regained a deep sense of safety with my mother that I had lost for sometime.  I gained a level of intimacy with my husband for which each of us craved but never knew how to attain.  I have gained grounding, patience, humility and countless other boons.  I have also gained many gifts that at first glance confused me.  I was LIVID after the birth of my first daughter.  I was livid during the birth, and I was overall disappointed…in myself.  

These threads did not integrate for me until I was staring down the birth of my second daughter.  As I processed my emotions to access the willingness to birth my second daughter into the world, I found rage and I found malcontent towards myself.  Working with other women that are not frightened by their power helped me find the power to inspect what was hidden in that rage – a rage I had denied myself access to for most of my life.  Dealing with the feelings of disappointment that had come up around my first birth helped me turn the volume down a bit on that nagging perfectionist voice I carry within me every day.  Truly all this helped me to love and be loved more.  These are some of the many wounds I was able to heal for myself by connecting to my Power to Birth.  I want to help you do the same!

Throughout my life yoga and mediation have been a primary grounding force for me.  My Kundalini was awaked by Baba Muktananda when I was 3 years old.  I walked with him until his passing.  I then walked with his successor Guru Mayi Chidvelasananda for some time.  Eventually, these Tantric roots took on other forms. Today I am an Ashtanga practitioner as often as my life allows for me to be, and my sanity would elude me if I did not meditate regularly.

In January of 2008 my family moved to Seattle.  In the fertile lands of the Northwest I have found a community of doulas, midwives and sacred healers that has truly allowed me to bring into form the work I want to do in this world.  It is here that I have found support for what has been steeping within me for so long.  I created TantricBirth to help women and their families transform the birthing experience.  I want to take birth out of the shadows of fear and into the light of empowerment.  Join me in a walk to liberation!

Thank you for visiting my site and getting to know me a better.